Updates and Self Care

With the recent pandemic and other current events, I wanted to clarify some things and make a self-care post.

First of all, my wife and I have been practicing social-distancing (we’re technically sheltering in place and in isolation) since the end of March of this year. Any “new” content is from past adventures, since we are unable to travel. The good news is that I have quite a few adventures to play “catch up” with!

Our days now mostly look like this.

I think it’s worth mentioning that for many reading this you may find yourself in a similar situation as we are. Being high risk means that we’ve had to take extra precautions and live a lifestyle that is significantly different from what we were used to. There have been many changes and emotional roller coasters.

And I’m here to tell you, it’s OK.

It’s OK to feel exhausted. It’s OK to feel or be “unproductive”. It’s OK to be scared or sad or angry. It’s OK to be needing extra assistance and support right now. It’s OK to express yourself. It’s OK for you to have changes in your body and health. It’s OK for you to set boundaries, take breaks, and even let go of people, places, things, and mindsets that aren’t supportive of your needs and safety. It’s OK to take extra time to practice self care in whatever way your body and mind needs. Just do you, and know that there are MANY people out there (like me!) that DO support you!

One of my self care activities is tending to my little windowsill garden.

Please be kind to yourself (and others). Do what you need to do to be safe and to feel that your needs are met, even if it doesn’t make sense to others. Personally, I have had to set a lot of boundaries with my work and let go of a lot of friends that couldn’t or wouldn’t support my choice in continuing to follow my doctor’s orders of remaining socially distant (that I have interpreted as practicing isolation and shelter in place). It’s what is helping me cope, and what is the best for my health both physically and mentally. I often find myself needing more frequent breaks, visits to my therapist, and time to reflect than I have in the past. I also have found that I need to set more boundaries and be more diligent about communicating my needs as well. These are all good, healthy things that make my life easier with all the change and chaos in the world.

I hope these words find you well. I hope that you have found some wonderful self care tools. I would LOVE if you shared your healing and self care process in the comments below! Please feel free to reach out to me for support or assistance. I am a social worker by trade and am pretty good and locating resources to help out if you need or want them.

Even Baymax practices self care, and supports you in doing the same!

Until we meet again, breathe, take excellent care of yourself, and remember YOU MATTER!


  1. Oh my gosh Baymax has gotten so big! 😍 Such a handsome boy!

    Being high risk myself because immunodeficiency I completely understand that ‘stuck at home life. Sometimes its hard but it’s helped me realize I am so much stronger than I thought. My self care also include taking care of my garden of plants and zoo. But also my mental self care includes having to remind myself that laying in bed all day because I don’t feel well is perfectly OK.

    Thanks for sharing this, I’m happy to read these and look forward to seeing more.

    -Ash and Mishka


    • Awww thank you! Baymax has gotten HUGE! We seriously did not expect him to reach almost 80lbs. (Compared to Mishka, he’s still probably pretty small though!)

      I LOVE your self-care thoughts and tips! I never thought about the staying in bed portion as I’ve always been one to try and push things (sometimes too far!), and I’m going to try that too! Thank you for being open and sharing all that!

      We miss seeing you both at training! When all of this is all over and we’re “un-grounded” we can get together again sometime!

      All the best! 🙂

      Loni and Baymax


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